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Independent review · Adults 18+
DateMyAge review: the credit system, and what it really costs
There is no flat monthly fee here. You buy credits, and almost everything spends them. That single design choice decides whether this platform is worth your money, so it is where this review starts.
The short version
DateMyAge is a real, long-running platform for singles over 40, with the widest international reach of anything we cover and a video chat feature that genuinely helps confirm a person is who they say. Those are real strengths.
The problem is the pricing. It runs on credits rather than a flat fee, and published rates put a single credit somewhere between twenty and eighty cents. Reading one email can cost ten. A talkative evening can empty a welcome package. Reviewers and users have been consistent on this point for years, and the platform is not upfront enough about how fast the balance drains.
Use it if you are open to meeting women outside your own country and you set a hard budget before you start. If you want local matches near a US or Canadian city, the others on our list will serve you better for less.
How this review was put together. It draws on DateMyAge’s own published material, its app store listings, and published independent reviews and user feedback. It is not based on our own paid account. Prices move often on this platform, so treat every figure here as a guide and check the checkout screen.
How the credits actually work
Most dating sites charge a flat monthly fee and let you message freely inside it. DateMyAge does not. You buy a package of credits, and individual actions spend them. This is the single most important thing to understand before you enter a card.
Published packages move around, but the shape has held for years. The entry tier is roughly $22.99 for around 150 credits in the first month, renewing substantially higher after that. Mid and upper tiers run into the low and mid hundreds. Across the packages, a single credit works out somewhere between twenty and eighty cents, with the bigger bundles giving the better rate.
What spends them is the part that catches people out. Continuing a chat costs credits per message. Opening an email from another member has been reported at around ten credits on its own. Video calls, virtual gifts, unlocking private photos and viewing profile videos all draw down the same balance.
What is free
More than you might expect, and it is worth using properly before you spend anything:
- Registration, profile creation and browsing the member base.
- Sending introduction or offline hello messages, which are not capped in the way most rivals cap them.
- The first exchanges in a conversation, before the meter starts.
- A one-off welcome allowance of credits and free chats when you first subscribe.
Use the free tier to answer one question: how many active members sit inside a distance you would actually travel? Everything else can wait until you know that.
Who is really on it
DateMyAge is marketed at singles over 40, and the age range is genuinely broad. It is also, by some distance, the most international platform we cover. That is either the main attraction or the main problem, depending on what you want.
If you are open to meeting women in other countries, the reach is real and no other site on our list matches it. If you are hoping for someone within driving distance of a US or Canadian city, several reviewers have reported the opposite of what they wanted: thin local results alongside a steady stream of attention from members in Eastern Europe, South America and Southeast Asia, often with unusually polished profiles.
Be honest with yourself about which of those you are looking for. The platform will not make that decision for you, and the credit system means an unfocused month is an expensive one.
On age preferences
Members here set very wide age ranges, wider than on most mature dating platforms. For a site about age gap dating that is not automatically a criticism, and it is part of why DateMyAge turns up in this category at all. But several reviewers have found the breadth unrealistic in practice, with stated preferences that bear little relation to who actually replies. Set your own range honestly and judge people on their messages rather than their filters.
What works
- The widest international reach of any platform we cover.
- Live video chat, which is a genuinely useful way to confirm someone is real before you invest more.
- Free introduction messages and free opening exchanges, so you can test the water without paying.
- Fast signup. You are browsing in minutes rather than working through a long questionnaire.
- Selfie verification exists, which is more than several rivals offer.
- Apps on both iOS and Android as well as the web.
What doesn’t
- Credits are expensive and the platform is not transparent enough about how fast they drain.
- The renewal price is far higher than the first-month price. Read the small print.
- Reading a single email can cost around ten credits.
- Thin local results in many US and Canadian areas.
- Repeated user reports of profiles that feel too polished to be genuine.
- Cancellation and customer service complaints come up regularly.
Cancelling, and the renewal trap
The most common complaint we found was not about the platform itself. It was about people paying an introductory price and then being billed at a much higher rate the following month, having not registered the difference at checkout.
Cancel through your account settings before the renewal date. If you subscribed through the iOS or Android app, the billing is handled by Apple or Google, which means you cancel in your App Store or Play Store subscription settings and not inside DateMyAge. Deleting the app does not stop the charge.
Several reviewers have reported slow or unclear confirmation after requesting cancellation. Keep a dated screenshot of the confirmation screen, and check your statement the following month rather than assuming it went through.
Staying safe here
The international skew and the paid messaging make this a platform where the usual precautions matter more than usual, because romance scams target exactly this pattern.
- Use the video call before you invest real time or money in someone. It is the strongest tool the platform gives you.
- Never send money, gift cards or banking details to anyone, under any circumstance or story.
- Be wary of anyone who moves fast emotionally, or who steers you off the platform in the first few messages.
- Treat a profile that reads like a modelling portfolio with the caution it deserves.
How it compares
Against AgeMatch, DateMyAge wins on reach and loses on cost. AgeMatch charges a flat monthly fee and lets you message inside it, which is easier to budget and better if your search is local.
Against WantMatures, DateMyAge is the more substantial platform, but both share the problem that reviewers question how many profiles are genuine.
Against Gaper, DateMyAge is more serious and better built, though Gaper is free to install and try first.
The verdict
DateMyAge is not a scam and it is not a bad platform. It is an expensive one with an unusual pricing model that suits a specific person: someone genuinely open to an international relationship, who will use the video chat properly, and who sets a budget and sticks to it.
If that is not you, and particularly if you want to meet someone near where you live, start with our full ranking of age gap dating sites instead. There are cheaper ways to find out whether anyone is nearby.
Sources
Compiled from DateMyAge’s own site and app store listings, and from published independent reviews and aggregated user feedback. Credit prices and package sizes change frequently on this platform, so verify the figures at checkout before subscribing.
Compare with the others
We reviewed five age gap dating sites in total. See our AgeMatch review and our Gaper review, or start with the full ranking of age gap dating sites.
Judy, and the Dating App Critic team
Founder and editor
I started this site after watching my father go quiet. He was in his sixties, still walking five miles most mornings, still the first one up, still curious about everything. The women he was introduced to were at a different stage of life, settled in ways he was not, and the conversations rarely went anywhere. He was not looking for a bridge partner. He wanted someone with the same appetite for the day that he had.
He tried three dating sites and gave up on all three, having paid for two of them. That is the part I could not let go. Not that it was hard, but that nobody had told him which ones were worth his money before he spent it.
So we write the reviews I wish he had been able to read. We say when a platform is thin, when the pricing is misleading, and when a site is simply the wrong tool for a wide age gap, even when saying so costs us a commission.
Questions people ask
How much does DateMyAge actually cost?
There is no flat monthly fee. You buy credits, and published packages have started around $22.99 for roughly 150 credits in the first month, with larger bundles running into the hundreds. A single credit works out somewhere between twenty and eighty cents depending on the package.
The figure that catches people out is the renewal, which is considerably higher than the introductory price. Check the checkout screen rather than the advertised number.
Is DateMyAge free?
Registration, browsing and sending introduction messages are free, and the opening exchanges of a conversation are free too. You also get a one-off welcome allowance of credits when you first subscribe.
Everything after that spends credits, including continuing a chat, opening an email, video calls and virtual gifts. Use the free tier to check how many active members are near you before paying anything.
Is DateMyAge legit or a scam?
It is a real, long-running platform that processes payments properly and will not vanish with your card details. In that sense it is legitimate.
The persistent criticism is about profile authenticity and cost transparency rather than fraud. Several reviewers report unusually polished profiles and thin local results. Use the video chat to confirm someone is real, and never send money to anyone.
How do I cancel DateMyAge?
Cancel through your account settings before the next billing date. If you subscribed inside the iOS or Android app, cancel in your Apple or Google subscription settings instead, because the billing runs through the app store.
Deleting the app does not stop the charge. Keep a dated screenshot of the confirmation and check your statement the following month.
Is DateMyAge good for older men seeking younger women?
It can be, with a caveat. Members set very wide age ranges and the platform genuinely serves a broad spread, which is why it appears in this category.
But it is heavily international. If you want to meet someone within travelling distance in the US or Canada, a dedicated age gap site will serve you better and cost less. If you are open to meeting women in other countries, nothing else we cover matches the reach.